sexuality
NEW YORK TIMES
“My dilemma was clear: how could I describe my desires to David when I could hardly confess them to myself? Spanking fetishists don’t have a tradition of coming out. The comparisons to child abuse and spousal battery are inevitable, upsetting and often impossible to dispel, so it’s easiest to keep our interest private.”
— Finding the Courage to Reveal a Fetish (2012)
AMERICAN PROSPECT
“The hypocrisy underlines our profound social discomfort with female sexual agency, and our constant impulse to automatically paint women as passive victims of circumstances beyond their control. Men are always “brave,” and congratulated for their physical choices; women are always “victims,” and told that their physical choices didn’t count.”
— Should Rape Porn Be Banned? (2013)
SLATE
“Spanking kids is gross. There are a lot of reasons why—it’s counterproductive and ineffective, for starters—but there’s another reason that nobody talks about. Butts are sexual. That’s why the area is one of the few ‘private’ parts that, along with breasts and genitals, we feel the need to cover with a swimsuit. If a parent saw a teacher patting a child’s shoulder, it’d be no big deal. But if a parent saw a teacher patting a child’s butt, she would (rightly) be very alarmed.”
— Spanking Is A Sex Act (2014)